Dear Willie: I won’t spell it out because I know young children reading the articles, but my man not eating good. I am not comfortable.
One day I end up by the doctor for an infection, because he do it with a cavity though I warned him. He is a complete idiot and I am sick of him.
When I refuse to let him go down, he curses me saying I got man and all. Willie, the man don’t know what the hell he is doing. Sometimes I am on my phone texting while he eating, that’s how boring mate is.
Sometimes he so rough (maybe to get my attention), biting me in the act and bruising and swelling me up. Willie, I talk to him about it, but his response is ignorant. He said that’s how he do his thing and he never got any complaint.
You cannot tell this man nothing Willie. He quick to get vex and walk out. What else should I do with this man Willie?
Dear Miss: Poor jab. Seems like you need a real jab-jab to soak the salt fish good.
On a serious note, it is very difficult to address or correct an ignorant person. I feel your pain. Not everyone is good at dining.
Have you ever told him how you like it?
Maybe that’s the problem: You only dwell on the negative aspects and you probably allowed him to do what he wanted too long before telling him what you want.
He probably did well as a jab-jab in the other relationships. But what works on one woman, may not work on another.
I am curious to find out how long you’ve been involved with this man.
At the end of the day, you’re in charge of your food. Starvation is one method of forcing him to get his act together. You can also print some literature on eating, and present it to him (if he can read).
Another method is telling him when to continue when he hits the right spot. Or just tell him “too hard” or “too soft”, or “up there, yes right there”. Simple, and subtle directions.
His rough eating is probably to get your attention. It is disrespectful though to be doing other things while he is doing his thing. But rough-eating is nothing pleasant to experience. Some people do forget that what they’re consuming must not be necessarily chewed and it is not meant to be swallowed.
Sometime ago a female complained to me that her man was nibbling on her clit like rabbit on a carrot and she slapped him in his head to get the “**** off”. He left her for that.
Common sense is not so common after all.
I wish you luck.
Willie
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