Dear Willie: I can’t take it anymore. My husband is a LIAR and a CHEATER!
A few years ago, I found out my husband was cheating. I did not leave because firstly, although I was angry and hurt, I love him and he promised it will not happen again. Anyways, for a couple of months I continued snooping and monitoring but did not get any more evidence so I stopped. Little did I know, he just got more sophisticated at cheating.
He went out one night with his work friends and came back at 10:30 p.m. He then said to me, he had to go back out because they had friends from overseas they wanted to show a good time. I was not pleased and did express my displeasure, but he went anyways because he already had his plans.
Not sure what time he came home cause I was asleep. When I got up around 7 a.m., he was still asleep. I went in his phone and saw a message from the same girl that he allegedly was not seeing anymore. When I confronted him, he said he does not know why she would send him that message at that time, and how he does not know when last he spoke to the girl.
Willie, I wanted to burst his mouth. The f**** liar! If a woman sends you a message at 2:15 a.m. asking if you got home safely, how the hell can you tell me you were not with her? From then on, nothing has been the same. I can’t believe anything he says to me. He has now changed his password on his phone and guards it like a fortress.
Whey the hell do men have to lie so much?
Dear Miss: Once a cheater, always a cheater. A cheetah cannot turn into a sheep. A cheetah is a cheetah.
Cheating once – forgiven, then cheating twice? I doubt your trust in him will ever be restored. His actions certainly do not appear to be honest.
I won’t encourage you to ask for a divorce, because that should be your call, but you can certainly mention it to him, to pick his mind. Ask him if he wants to divorce because you don’t feel loved anymore. Tell him it is best to part ways so he can move on with his life. Don’t forget to tell him that you love him a lot and divorce is not something you would want, but his actions speaks differently. Ask if that’s what he wants. His answer and how he answers will give you an idea of where his mindset is.
Why don’t you go out and have some fun? I don’t necessarily mean dirty fun, but become emotionally independent as much as you can, and stop monitoring him – focus more on you. You may end up getting more of his attention than you would expect, when he observes you’re giving him less attention. Most times going behind a man too much, and aggressively, produce negative results.
However, if he does not react to that “emotional independence, then that love and relationship was buried at Choc cemetery – a long time ago.
At the end of the day, you must do what makes you happy. Try as much you can to save your marriage, that’s up to you. But you have one life to live, and it’s not worth stressing your too much.
Willie
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