Dear Willie: My girl and I have been together for 10 years and I feel like I’m ready to take the next step. I even got a beautiful gold engagement ring, but can’t seem to give it to her.
I’m no saint and I have done some foolish things in the past. First, we used to have sex often – sometimes twice a day; now it has been cut down to once a month – twice if I’m lucky. Now I’m not saying sex is all but, we are two young people.
We hardly spend time together and she’s always tired, goes to bed early and it makes me feel like she’s avoiding me. As if that’s not bad enough, she has that one friend that seems to have more power in this relationship than me. The friend knows more about her business than me, and she is always willing to go out with her friend- never too tired whenever the friends ask her to go somewhere.
Her mother has done all she can to break us up and still continues to have a say in our relationship. Recently she got upset and told me her mother got upset at some of the things I post on Facebook.
What pissed me off is that I don’t have her mum as a friend on Facebook so why would she make it her duty to check my page like I’m a little boy? I have asked her to separate and go our own way, because I feel like she either doesn’t have feelings for me or she seeing and sleeping with someone else. She cries and begs me to stay to work it out, always promising to try and to change but never really does. What do I do?
Dear sir: You need to talk to your woman seriously about what you want for your future. That is a pretty long time to be together and to be at a point of uncertainty.
You also need to evaluate how you treat her. Are you being possessive? Are you understanding and supportive? Try to determine what could be influencing her actions; don’t make it all about sexual intercourse. This is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life is so you need to know how committed she is to you.
It’s always a plus to have the blessings of a partner’s parents in any relationship, but if you two want to save this relationship she will just have to explain to her parents that this is who she loves.
Willie.
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