Dear Willie: I have been with this guy for a year and six months now. We don’t live together but I normally visit him on weekends and holidays.
This guy has swept me off my feet and done things that guys refuse to do nowadays. I am concerned about my health. I am allergic to latex and so we don’t use protection. We even went for STD testing together before having sex.
Lately, people in his area have been telling me that when am not around he has a female visitor. I brought it to his attention and we sat and talked about it. He told me that it was nothing and they are just friends. I soon got over it and put it behind me even though I still hear the rumors.
Earlier this month I borrowed his phone to get photos of his daughters from his gallery to make him a portrait for Christmas, and in the process, he received a detailed picture from his child’s mother along with a nasty conversation they had ending with when and where to meet. I kept it in and even tried to flirt with a guy to get over it, but realized it made no sense and stopped it.
So here I am thinking if I should tell him or if I should keep it in. I love this guy to death. He is the only guy I have ever brought home to my over-protective dad and the only guy I have opened up my life to. Should I speak to him about it or just keep it to myself?
Dear Miss: You should definitely speak to him about your discovery and concerns. It is not fair to you at all.
He must account for the conversation and photo. He owes you that much.
Please do not delay, and when you do, please tell him to be frank with you because you’re not up to any games. It is either he is going to be faithful, honest or leave you alone.
BTW, if this is bothering you so much that you do not trust him any longer then the relationship is in jeopardy. Without trust a relationship is ruined.
Please update us on how this turns out.
Willie
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