Dear Willie: I am a 21-year-old mother of two. I just left a relationship with my daughter’s father who is married, but about two months ago I thought that it was time for me to stop chasing away men and iIaccepted this man into my life.
Willie, he is a nice guy, but there is a problem. As usual, things started off really nice. We went on a few dates and talk to each other a lot, to get to know each other a little better.
The man and I used to work at the same place and he left because of an altercation with someone. Willie, it has nothing to do with our relationship that he left. But before he left we use to go out like I said.
One day we were heading from work to go to the movies when his ex-girlfriend appeared at our work place, crying and begging him to take her back. At the time I didn’t know who she was so he left and told me there is something he needs to take care of.
Later that night he explained to me that the issue was she wanting to come back with him, but he said he told her that he is with me now.
One day he was at my home and she called, and when he was done talking to her she said I love you and he said it back. I got all upset and asked him what is going on. He gave the excuse that if he didn’t say I love you back to her, she wouldn’t stop calling. I don’t know what happened. He told me that he blocked her on Whatsapp and deleted her number, but I didn’t believe him.
One day he came home again and we were talking, and he was showing me some stuff on Whatsapp and I noticed her name still there, so when I asked him about it and asked him if he is lying to me, he said that she was the one who begged him in town to add her back. It was a Saturday and he was supposed to come to my place and he never showed up. I called but he never answered.
However, on Sunday I called again and he answered but tell me that he got some bad news. When questioned about it, he said that this same girl sent him a pregnancy test and it is positive. There was not anything I could say but we still went on.
One day he was at my home again and she called, and they were talking. When I heard his tone of voice I told him that the two of them are back together and I cannot be a part of this. He swore to me that he wasn’t with her, so I said to him if it’s true I’m out. It wasn’t too long after he left my home he sent me a message asking if I am capable of having vision because the girl just asked him to get back with her because she cannot do it on her own.
He said he was going over her place to have a talk with her and he would get back to me. Problems started the next day. I didn’t hear from him for one week and that wasn’t the first time. The first was when he found out the news, but when he finally spoke to me and I asked him what’s going on, he never answered.
It happened that we broke up and he blocked me and I did too, then one day he unblock me and started talking to me again and say that I am his woman and he is not going anywhere.
Willie, there is more to this story, but based on what you have read so far please help me urgently. I do love him Willie, but I need to know if I should get out before it’s too late.
Dear Miss: While reading your letter, I kept ‘choopsing’ and nodding my head in disbelief.
All three of you are crazy. The pregnancy test episode should’ve been the time when you kick this man to the curve. The man is not only an idiot, but he is soft. The woman is a psycho b—.
I can’t believe you’re thinking about going back to this man. If there is more to this story, I don’t want to hear it. The info you provided is enough to make a crazy Lifetime movie.
But you’re young so I kinda sympathize with you. Do me a favour, grow some sense, please, for once.
Willie
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